Choose Well — Wedded Wednesday

The best way to have a good marriage is to pay attention to the character of the person that you married.

The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about this matter, in fact. The spouse you choose can make or break your life.

Proverbs 21 says that it’s better to live on the corner of a roof than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home (9) and that it’s also better to live alone in the desert than with a complaining wife (19).

And though it says “wife” (and believe me I take that to heart, because I do not want to be that kind of person), I think it goes either way.

Better to be single—forever even—than to marry the wrong person. Than to marry someone who will make your life harder, not better. Better to live on the roof, Proverbs tells us, than in a mansion with a bad spouse.

And I know that’s easy to say from this side of marraige vows, but I have to tell you that though I am married to a good man, a man with character who is not quarrelsome or a complainer, that marriage is still hard. So why stack the deck against yourself?

I have been coming back to this draft all day, trying to expand on what I’ve written above, but I guess I don’t really have much more to say about it than this: Choose well. Choose carefully. Your life depends on it.

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